Asha Bandele on the man you deserve

You deserve a man who isn’t afraid of you, and who isn’t afraid of everything that brought you pain, and who will face that pain with you, no matter how ugly it is…You deserve a man who will tell you when you’re wrong, and who will listen when you tell him he’s wrong, and a man who is going to be just as open as you are, and just as free with his thoughts as you are, and just as willing to struggle with himself as you are…