Planners & Schedules

Keeping a planner has been a part of my life ever since I can remember. Even as an elementary student, we were all given spiral bound planners customized with the school’s logo and holiday schedule in it. We’ve been taught that keeping a planner, writing down homework/to-do lists, scheduling activities, scheduling study and leisure time,…

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Letting Go of “I’ll Show You!”

Being an overachiever often means an inescapable feeling of inadequacy. Couple that with being a Black woman in the US, and you’ve got a recipe for pathologically setting unrealistically high expectations followed by harsh self-criticism when you inevitably don’t meet those expectations. As a kid, being an overachiever usually meant reaching a predetermined goal that…

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My Real 90 Day Fiancé (MR90DF): One Year

October 14, 2015 The best way I could write this was as a letter to my husband: Dear Efrem, One year. It’s been one long year, and yet it’s only been one year. One year since you stepped foot in the United States. One year since we got the privilege of beginning our lifelong journey together.…

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