One Year: My Real 90 Day Fiancé (MR90DF)

One year. It’s been one long year, and yet it’s only been one year. One year since you stepped foot in the United States. One year since we got the privilege of beginning our lifelong journey together. One year since I got to see you for the first time after 15 months when I left you in an airport in Cape Town, both of us in tears, and then you met me in an airport in New Orleans, as I held a sign up with your name on it and we both grinned stupidly.

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Day 308 – 325: Green Card Countdown

I picked him up, handed him my phone with the opened email, and told him to read it. He just got this big stupid grin on his face,  and said, ‘My green card is coming?!’ I told him, I’m pretty sure that’s what it means. We probably both should’ve been happier, but with all the disappointment around the EAD getting lost and having to reapply, we both viewed this with cautious optimism. We’ll wait and see what happens.

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Day 298: The EAD Drama Continues

We had not one but TWO letters from USCIS, and one was in a larger than usual envelope—the full page sized envelope that we never get mail from USCIS in. I opened the big letter first and was instantly confused. The check I wrote them for our THIRD EAD application was stapled to a letter that said ‘Rejection Notice.’ As I read further, it said that the check we had sent for our application wasn’t necessary for the application to be processed, so it had been returned.

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Day 269: EAD Part 2

Even more grating was her chipper tone of voice—not even an attempt to be delicate when telling us not only do we have to fill out this paperwork for a THIRD time but now we have to pay even more money to this ridiculously inefficient government system to re-approve something that we should’ve had in hand back in March. She has the nerve to tell me to have a good day at the end of that phone call.

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Day 200: EAD Confusion Answered

This has to be the most ridiculous process ever. The EAD was already approved. The card gets lost in the mail, and instead of looking at the application they already have in hand and re-issuing a card, we have to start all over again. Also, the filing fee for the I-765 as a replacement is $380—it was free when filing with the I-485, but as a replacement, it costs money.

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Day 197: Change of Address

All I can recommend is that you DO NOT move while you’re in the middle of this process. Just don’t do it. Because USCIS apparently can’t handle a simple change of address. They say the can, they even have this nice, tidy online form that you can fill in and submit without having to actually mail a whole bunch of crap in. But it’s all lies. They’ll send you a letter a week or so later saying they’ve confirmed your change of address. But it’s all lies.

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Day 88, 95, 101: Getting a Driver’s License – 3 Strikes

They stay there for about 5 minutes, they come back, and say something along the lines of ‘we just spoke to immigration and they say you’re not eligible for a driver’s license. You have an I-797C and you need a plain I-797. Come back when you have that.’

Bold faced lie.

First of all, they need to let me know what direct dial extension they have to get through to immigration and get a question answered in 5 minutes. But really, they don’t have to bother, because there isn’t one. You can’t call USCIS that quickly, let alone even get an answer on a state-related law because they would have ZERO information about that.

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Day 90

Efrem and I hit our 90 day anniversary, so to speak. January 11, 2015 was the date of expiry on his K-1 visa stamped in his passport, our deadline for meeting USCIS’s terms for immigration.  Ninety days came and went before we could blink, which is why I can’t say enough, that it’s NOT a time frame […]

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Day 78 -79: Homeownership

When we finally got TO the closing, it became very clear why we really should’ve had a copy of the paperwork before hand. Error after error after error. First of all, the lawyer was trying to rush through the paperwork like he was selling me door-to-door life insurance. I quickly shut that down. He tried to rebut my request to slow down by saying that it was all “standard language,” but last I checked neither Efrem nor I were lawyers and there is nothing, absolutely nothing, standard about legal jargon.

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