All posts tagged: Love

Book 11: All About Love: New Visions–bell hooks

Another admission: this is the first bell hooks work I’ve read cover to cover (I’m a terrible Oberlin grad, lol!) Anyway…I chose this book out of intrigue with the first sentence of the back cover description: “The word ‘love’ is most often defined as a noun, yet…we would all love better if we used it as a verb.” This work explores the meaning of love; how we typically define it, what that definition lacks, and the importance of creating an operational definition of what love is (and isn’t) in order to have a common place of understanding to be able to work towards healthy and functional relationships. It was heavy in content but had an easy flow about it, mixing research, narrative, and opinion. In the introduction she writes, Awesomely, our nation, like no other in the world, is a culture driven by the quest to love (it’s the theme of our movies, music, literature) even as it offers so little opportunity for us to understand love’s meaning or to know how to realize love …

Top Ten

For the last couple of years, my oldest sister has been getting on me about making my “top ten.” What is that, you ask? Well a top ten is your list of non-negotiables/must-haves that you’d look for in your future husband (or wife). I’ve kind of skirted around making one since she first mentioned it and told me a few of hers…BUT, I finally got around to starting a list and writing it down when I was visiting her a couple of weeks ago. First, I thought this was a little ridiculous, but once I really started to think about the qualities I want in my mate and put them to paper, I realized how much it easier it will be to not waste time with people who fall short of those top ten. Now I know there is a lot of room for this to get really superficial really quickly, but if your really taking the time to think about the person you’d spend the rest of your life with (and if you’re bouncing …