On a Year’s Sobriety

In exactly one week I will break my year-long commitment to sobriety. In exactly one week I will be 30 years old. Over the course of the year being sober has been revealing, but maybe not in the ways that people would expect. But backing up, how did I get here? Why would I decide…

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Why Am I Doing?

Not what. Why. I’ve been putting off this post, because I knew it would take more mental energy to write it than I had at the moment when I started. Yesterday my planner called me out. Everyday there’s a quote on the note’s page. Yesterday’s quote was: People lose their way when they lose their…

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On Being Unapologetically Black…

The price we pay for being ourselves is worth it. –Eartha Kitt As kids we were regularly admonished to “use your inside voice!” or some variant of the phrase. Usually spoken by an older matriarchal figure, a grey-haired teacher (a librarian in my case), whenever you got just a little too animated and loud in…

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Acknowledging Accomplishments, ’17-’18 Edition

Last year, on my birthday, I wrote about letting go of my perfectionism, overachieving tendencies, and the need to prove myself to everyone and no one in particular. That was to be my 29th birthday gift to myself. I’m not sure about my progress in fulfilling that gift, but a condition of it was to…

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